This blog isn’t perfect, as you may find that someone displays some of these traits, or none. But hopefully you’ll come from a more considered ‘individual difference’ standpoint, as opposed to a ‘it’s because this person is autistic’ mindset.
Autism is a mental illness
Autism on its own is not a mental health condition or illness, it’s a developmental difference. However, many autistic people may experience a comorbidity with disorders such as anxiety and depression, and we’re certainly more susceptible to these conditions compared with the general population. Autistic people may also struggle due to being overwhelmed which can come from issues around sensory sensitivity or difficulties in social interactions. This may lead to meltdowns and stress, which can then affect how someone is doing and feeling mentally. It all interplays and has knock-on effects, which illustrates some of the wider issues that autistic people come up against day-to-day.
We are all geniuses
We are most certainly not! Yes, there will be some autistic people who have an insatiable appetite for reciting the phone book or other such amazing memory feats – but this really isn’t the norm. We may have our specific strengths, be it the ability to problem-solve, to be hyper-focused, or to think outside the box. We have a unique perspective that sets us apart, so to speak, and we see and perceive the world differently. Yet we can also struggle to understand the world around us and what’s going on in it.
It’s important to not put false expectations on the autistic person or to put them on a pedestal. This will only cause unnecessary stress and pressure, as well as singling someone out. None of which is fair or helpful.
We can’t make eye contact
I used to be terrible at this as a kid (I used to stare non-stop at people), but have learned over time to minimise this and to alternate between making eye contact, and not. I’d say I’m pretty good at it now. This has come through practise and mimicking: copying from those around me and from TV. A lot of women tend to be better at eye contact than men. But my p