If you do ask for feedback you should:
- Ask for feedback by email – So they can think carefully about what they want to say. A reply in writing is easier for you to process and act on if it is relevant to the next job interview.
- Always be polite – They are doing you a favour
- Thank them for taking the time – they will be busy
- Avoid making it sound like a complaint – They will not give you useful feedback if they are feeling defensive
- Bear in mind that not every first-choice candidate accepts the job – Dealing well with feedback increases your chances of being considered as a reserve candidate.
Try saying something like this:
Dear [INSERT THE NAME OF YOUR INTERVIEWER HERE],
Thank you for interviewing me for the post of [INSERT THE JOB TITLE HERE] on [INSERT THE DATE OF YOUR INTERVIEW HERE]. Whilst I’m disappointed that I wasn’t chosen, I would really appreciate some honest feedback if I were to apply for a similar job with you in the future. It would be really helpful to know specifically:
- Whether there was a skill or qualification I lack which would have been helpful
- How you felt I came over in the interview
- If there is anything you think would help my chances next time?
Thank you for your time and kind consideration,
[YOUR NAME HERE]